Archive for September, 2012


Countdown to Nephew #2!!

Good afternoon my lovelies.  Lovelies today, not darklings because this is a special, happy day.  In about 40 minutes my best friend/little sister will be having her second baby.  Baby Tyler is ready to come play and I can’t wait.  She gets deathly sick like I do.  I was dumb enough to risk it 4 times but she got through this with not one problem so we’re grateful.  His big brother is ready with his own kiddie camera to take pictures of his little brother.

I’m ready for the phone call that everything went smoothly and there’s one more pure little soul down here with us.  His gift is packed, sitting beside me and waiting like me. 🙂  There’s nothing better than that squirmy tiny thing a swaddled and comfy sitting in your arms (especially after they’re nice and cleaned up lol) unless it’s your own blanket wrapped newborn.  But since I can’t take those risks anymore, I’m stealing baby time from her. lol  Not that I wouldn’t anyway.

This morning she was all nice and calm and I was the hyper one.  But then I won’t be doing the 4 hour change the diaper, fix the bottle, feed, burp, repeat routine so maybe it’s easier for me. lol  Today will be bonding time with the new addition but Aunt Boo (yes that’s what I’m called) will be swooping in as soon as visiting hours start tomorrow.  I have to see everyone to make sure they all look content and well taken care of while they have their stay or the evil Aunt will show up. 🙂

Okay we’re down to 13 minutes til c-section time and I’m too excited to be sitting here so I’m going to have to go clean or something.

But to Dee, who’s always been my best friend and little sister, you’ve done well, you’re a good mommy  and, yeah mushier than usual, I love you.  Tell the baby Aunt Boo said Hey.  I’ll see him soon. 🙂

This morning, my darklings, I am trying something new.  We are going to be joined by a former Assistant Producer for the Disney Channel, an Executive Accountant for eight radio stations, print model and actress in radio, television and theater.  She’s also a holistic healer, believing in the harmony of mind, body and soul.  She has many other hats that she wears that you can read up on at her website www.confessionsofalovedream.com.  Most importantly right now she is the author of the book, Confessions of a Love Dream, the True Story of My French Affair.
First, practicing some witchcraft, I get the mind, body, soul, universe connection, but I have to ask what drew you to it?
As a child I was drawn to the mystical aspect of life that I experienced in nature, mostly. There was something magical about it that I came to learn was a part of me too. Unfortunately, it wasn’t until after I tried to live more “perfectly” on the outside (and failed miserably) that I actually turned inward to find my healing through the body/mind/spirit connection.
 Tell us about your middle name Serina.
My mother didn’t give me a middle name and actually named me Stephanie after a Shaman woman she knew through her mother. Our relationship was strained, however, she did create that space for me to find my true self and claim my middle name. I had a sense about it for years and it was only through my Tantric healing experiences that I found my inner Goddess named Serina. I’m called that when I do my healing work.
 What was it, after all you’ve already accomplished, that made you want to write this book?
I never set out to write a book, although I’d always longed to write. I worked hard to make enough money to support my family and didn’t have time to be writing. (That’s all explained in my book) I had an amazing “chance meeting” with a Frenchman while taking my daughter to France for her 16th birthday and after a glorious afternoon together we began a love affair online. It was his love letters that touched me so deeply that I was moved to review my life. I signed up for National Novel Writing Month and committed to write 50k words in a month so I used that as a challenge to put the stories of my life on paper. At a certain point I realized, “oh my God, I have a book!” His love letters were far too beautiful to be kept in a box under my bed. They are all in the book!
Your book touches on some intense topics, was that difficult to write or has your experience leading women’s empowerment groups made it easier to speak, or write in this case, openly?
Truthfully, when you are young and suffer shameful events,(like a sexual assault), you feel like somehow it was your fault. Through a lot of hard work and healing of my own, I’ve been able to bring those issues into the light of love, where others can step out of shame and find true healing. It’s my commitment to move through life with love and compassion and talk about things that are often taboo in our culture. I believe in the transformational power of love, even the shadow parts of it.
I hate these kinds of questions, but I have to ask it anyway. If you could describe your book in three to five words, what would they be?
Love Heals All.
Do you plan on writing more books?
Yes! I found my writer’s voice through the process of writing my first book and I’ve got lots of ideas for more of them. I actually find that my life provides interesting events that I enjoy sharing and through telling these stories and others can glean insight into their own lives and benefit from my experiences. Some are also very funny because there is so much humor inherent in life itself!
What is it that made you want to accomplish so much in your life? What drives you to succeed the way you do?
My life SO didn’t turn out the way I though it would! I think it’s more my soul’s desire to live congruently on the outside that drives me to keep going until it matches my inner process. I had so much conditioning and emotional trauma that it took many years to actually get in touch with my inner self and then try to craft a viable career from there. It’s a process but my book is a roadmap to my transformation.
And, finally, this one is up to you. What do you feel is going to draw people to this book?
My story is universal to all of us and even though the circumstances may not be the same, we are all struggling to find love, acceptance and happiness. I hope my book gets the exposure it needs so that it can touch people and open the conversation about the more significant things in life that we all care about.
THANK YOU!!  PLEASE PROMOTE THE WEBSITE: CONFESSIONSOFALOVEDREAM.COM
So, my lovelies, you’ve met author Stephanie Serina Torres.  Be sure to go to her website http://www.confessionsofalovedream.com/ to learn more about her and her book Confessions of a Love Dream, The True Story of My French Affair.  Trust me, these few interview questions don’t scratch the surface of what this dynamic woman has done.

Poetry, Stories and Music Videos

Good morning darklings.  I love my music.  Couldn’t live without it.  Maybe I couldn’t write without it.  There are multiple playlists for parts of my books that I listen to to inspire the feeling in me that I want to give to a reader.  Now lots of writers add their playlists at the end of their books in the acknowledgement section.  I read one that even put which part of the book each song went with.  I think adding the playlists is a cool idea and I like to know what kind of music the writers I read listen t

As  a lot of writers, I started out writing poetry, no gooey love stuff, dark love where it usually didn’t end happily ever after even though when I read a book, I want to happily ever after.  At least for the couple, through whatever perils we decide to put before them.  And as I thought about that again this morning, I was thinking, as I’m sure many of you have already done, that a song is just a poem to music.  Of course, you have to have the talent to write the music for the poem.

Then to take it further, the poem is telling a story in a very limited amount of space.  Personally, I’m usually a five verse or one long poem girl.  Five verses gives room for a sound beginning, a middle with the plot and the last two are usually my “what happens” and resolution parts.  But if you take the poem, that’s basically a very short story, put it to music and then make a video, wouldn’t that be the similar to a 3 to 4 minute movie?

So anyway, this song is one I like to use for writing love, well almost any Dashboard Confessional song does the trick but this one has tarot cards in it and we know I love my cards.  I also figured it would go over better than the heavier music I listen to.  I suggest watching it and, if you like it or even if you don’t, tell me if you think that it could help inspire your writing and if you agree with me or not.

Good morning darklings.  I had a very interesting Labor Day weekend.  I hope you all had some excellent cookout food and beers with friends.  I spent a decent amount of it in the hospital but, hey, we all know I’m weird and morbid you can’t fix that. lol  I personally don’t think it needs to be fixed or I’ve been broken for decades. 🙂  But between boughts of sleeping from boredom, I thought a lot about my book.  I’ve been a little stuck.

But lots of time to sit around and think has solved that problem and I can start moving forward again.  My heroine has a purpose again that will tie in very nicely with the ending that I have planned out.  Her Death Angel is going to show her things and explain a lot of her questions without ruining the plot.  It was nice of my Muse to come visit me.  Don’t you just love it when that happens?  On the other hand, I had nothing to write with or on so I had to keep replaying the scene in my head to make sure I remembered it.  It was frustrating but it also gave me the opportunity to tweak what happens and what background will look lik.  I don’t think any kind of angel would live in squalor and he’s going to get an extra piece of magic that will fit in perfectly with what he does for the Angel of Death.

I’m home in time to make it to my very first writer’s convection, thank goodness since I already registered.  I have to tell you that I’m very nervous about it.  I’ll be the one all the way in the back.  Someone tell me about how these things normally work, please?  I need another writer here close by that I can make go with me.  Anyone feel like flying to Baltimore and trying to get registered before the spaces fill up? lol